Yes absolutely!

I am a rabbi who serves San Francisco, and I welcome the chance to officiate Jewish weddings in all shapes and forms. I officiate interfaith weddings, Jewish gay weddings, multi-ethnic weddings and more!

My wife was not Jewish when we got married, and we were fortunate at the time to find a rabbi to marry us. It is embarrassing that so many rabbis still make this an issue today.

Yes. I am happy to co-officiate at an interfaith or multi-faith ceremony, and/or incorporate elements from other traditions to help you create the wedding ceremony that best represents your relationship and the life you want to build together.

That sounds uncomfortable but not uncommon. There are a lot of different kinds of rabbis, and what is important is finding one you are comfortable with.

With me, you’ll find someone who listens a lot, and brings in Jewish wisdom and ideas relevant to you. I have no agenda other than to empower you to feel more connected to your Jewishness. Rabbi means “my teacher” in Hebrew, and I love teaching people about their heritage in ways relevant to them.

Yes! You can have anything but country music!  😀

Yes. Whatever issues there are in your family will come up during the course of the wedding planning. My parents are divorced and were not getting along at the time of our wedding so I am speaking from personal experience.

As you wedding officiant I will support you through this process, and help you assess where to compromise and where to set healthy boundaries.

This is a traditional custom that has a variety of meanings. Seven is a sacred number in Judaism because of the seven days of creation. There are also seven blessings as part of the Jewish wedding ceremony.

Some explanations suggest it is because the groom is the center of a bride’s life, which does not fit with people with an egalitarian sensibility. As your Jewish wedding rabbi, we’ll discuss this and other traditional rituals and see if it fits your values. Some couples decide not to do this ritual or have both people circle the chupah (wedding canopy).

These are two parts of a traditional Jewish wedding. Kiddushin is the first part of a traditional Jewish wedding ceremony. I honestly have concerns because it is a financial transaction in which the groom acquires the bride for money in the form of a ring. I don’t think this is a good basis for a marriage, and there are implications should the couple get divorced.

Jewish feminist theologian Rabbi Rachel Adler has written a wonderful alternative ritual called Brit Ahuvim, which means a covenant of love. That being said, I will support you and perform a ceremony with Kiddushin if that is what you wish. It is definitely a subject we’ll cover as we meet.

The Seven Blessings (Sheva Brachot in Hebrew) are recited under the Huppah (wedding canopy) and are wonderful. Moreover, the Seven Blessings and are infinitely adaptable to fit your values and the marriage you are building together.

The short answer is yes. The longer answer is that it depends on who you ask. Orthodox Rabbis and some Reform or Conservative Rabbis would give a different answer.

The reality is that today 70% of Jewish people are marrying someone who isn’t Jewish. I am proud to officiate at interfaith Jewish weddings and multi-cultural Jewish weddings.

Conversion is a spiritual issue and not something that should be done for the sake of someone else, or to please a partner’s family. My wife was not Jewish when we got married, and she decided to convert 20 years later based on her own spiritual journey.

Yes. Judaism is as much a culture as it is a religion. There are many beautiful elements that can be brought to your Jewish wedding ceremony that don’t require God, blessings or prayers. I’ll work with you to help you create the right Jewish wedding ceremony for you.

Yes, I will officiate a Jewish wedding on Shabbat/Saturday and on many Jewish holidays. I will not officiate on the High Holidays.